Hey there,
If you’re reading this, you might be feeling kind of stuck. Maybe you supported a leader—maybe even loved what he stood for. You defended him, believed he was being treated unfairly, and felt proud to be on his side. But now… things feel different.
You’re seeing stories that don’t sit right. You’re hearing new voices, or maybe old voices that suddenly make more sense. And you’re starting to ask yourself some big questions.
That takes courage.
Changing your mind is never easy. It can feel like you’re breaking up with a version of yourself—or letting go of something you were sure was true.
You’re not alone.
Here are some questions that might help you sort through it all:
Questions to Think About
- What did I like about this person in the beginning?
- What promises did he make, and did he keep them?
- Was I defending him because I believed in him—or because I didn’t want to admit I might’ve been wrong?
- Have I seen or heard things lately that made me uncomfortable?
- Is it possible I ignored red flags because I wanted to believe the best?
- Do I feel angry or embarrassed when someone criticizes him? Why?
- Do I feel like I’m being attacked when people talk about him?
- What kind of leader would I want for my kids? Does this person match that?
- If this was someone else—not the person I supported—would I still be okay with the things he says and does?
- Am I holding on because I’m afraid of what it means to let go?
These aren’t easy questions. But asking them means you care. It means you’re thinking for yourself. It means you’re strong, not weak.
We all want to believe we’re on the right side. But being on the right side doesn’t mean never changing—it means growing when we learn something new.
And here’s something true:
You are allowed to change your mind.
You are allowed to say:
“I used to believe that. But I’ve learned more, and I see things differently now.”
That’s not failure.
That’s growth.
And the world needs more people who are brave enough to grow.
So take your time. Keep listening. Keep asking.
You’re not alone.
With care,
A fellow human who’s still learning, too